The problem is... we blow it all out at work.

In our own lives, we can't think things through.
We don't make the sound choice.
When it comes to ourselves, we've got nothing left.

Cause if you take your vitamins...
and pay your taxes,
and never cut the line,
the universe still gives you people to love,
and then lets them slip through your fingers like water.
And then what have you got?

Vitamins... and nothing.

<Not Responsible - Grey's Anatomy Season7 E16>
Director Debbie Allen, Writer Debora Cahn
ABC, February 2011

According to Elizabeth Kubler-ross,
When we are dying...
or have suffered a catastrophic loss,
We all move through five distinct stages of grief.

We go into denial...
Because the loss is so unthinkable,
we can't imagine it's true.

We become angry with everyone
angry with survivors, angry with ourselves.
Then we bargain...

We beg, we plead...
We offer everything we have.
We offer up our souls...
in exchange... for just on more day.

When the bargaining has failed and 
the anger is too hard to maintain,
we fall into depression,
until finally we have to accept
that we have done everything we can.

We let go.
We let go and move into acceptance.

<Good Mourning - Grey's Anatomy Season6 E01>
ABC, 2009

Yang : You did everything you could.

Burke : There was an interview that Eugene gave.
            I saved it.
            I taped it to my bathroom mirror.
            He said that he wasn't the most talented student at music school.
            But he said what he lacked in natural ability,
            He made up for in discipline.
            He practiced...
            all the time.
            All the time, he practiced.

            I wasn't like you.
            I wasn't the most talented student in school.
            I wasn't the brightest.
            But I was the best.

Yang : You practiced.

Burke : I practiced.

<Under Pressure - Grey's Anatomy Season2 E24 >
ABC, September 2006

                           # But as hard as we try to move forward...
                               as tempting as it is to never look back...
                               the past always comes back to bite us in the ass.

                           # And as history shows us again and again,
                               those who forget the past are doomed to repeat it.

                           # Sometimes the past is something you just can't let go of.

                               And sometimes the past is something
                               we'll do anything to forget.

                               And sometimes
                               we learn something new about the past... 
                               that changes everything we know... 
                               about the present.

                           <New History - Grey's Anatomy Season6. Episode09>
                           ABC, November 12. 2009

                           * Photos courtesy of ABC (


A couple hundred years ago, 
Benjamin Franklin shared with the world the secret of his success. 
"Never leave that till tomorrow," he said, "which you can do today."

I don't know why we put things off, but if I had to guess, 
I'd say it has a lot to do with fear. 
Fear of failure, fear of pain, fear of rejection. 

Sometimes, the fear is just of making a decision. 
Because, what if you're wrong? What if you're making a mistake you can't undo?

 (... ...)

We have to make our own mistakes.
We have to learn our own lessons. 
We have to sweep today's possibility under tomorrow's rug until we can't anymore,
until we finally understand for ourselves what Benjamin Franklin meant. 
That knowing is better than wondering.
That waking is better than sleeping. 

And that even the biggest failure, even the worst, 
most intractable mistake beats the hell out of never trying. 

<Gray's Anatomy : season1-06. If tomorrow Never Comes>
Written by: Krista Vernoff
Directed by: Scott Brazil

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